motivation

BOOK REVIEW: ‘THE FAULT IN OUR STARS’ BY JOHN GREEN.

Yesterday as I was cleaning my bookshelves I came across one of my favorite books – ‘The fault in our stars’. It had been nearly two months since I didn’t read that book so I started reading and I was so hooked that I didn’t get up until I was finished reading it again (the reason I am still hesitant to give this book to anyone, even my cousin who was asking me about it two weeks ago. What can I say; I am just possessive about my books….). So, I thought even though it’s late to review this book I can at least share my thoughts about it. So here we go-

Though people like to classify this as a romantic story, I find it much more than that. It’s common to find stories where there are two beautiful, talented people, they come across each other accidently, fall in love with each other at first sight, fight their battles (which usually come in the form of their possessive ex) and live happily ever after. But this story is something which feels realistic most of the time. Where we mostly find stories of two complicated people with simple story, this is about two simple people with complicated lives.

The story is revolves around a teen girl Hazel, who has cancer from young age and has given up all hope on ever getting better. She comes across Augustus, who is a survivor of cancer. Throughout the journey there is a constant flow of sarcastic conversations between them which is quite refreshing in their depressing life situations.

There are some points in this book that I like the most. For instance, when Augustus asks them to write eulogy that they will say after his death. I always cry during this part. Even though not given in much detail, the depth of the situation cannot be ignored. We all know that we are going to die one day but we don’t always realize it, we all love to be independent and taking support of others sometimes often hurts our ego. But realizing that your days are numbered each and every moment and always having to take support of others even for most of minimal tasks is something no one wants their last memories to be; which are the emotions that we often come across in this story. Knowing that you won’t be able to live life to fullest like others is something no one wants but that’s what exactly the lead characters face.

The scene where Gus vomits all over his clothes or pees on his bed and is ashamed to show his face to Hazel depicts exactly what cancer makes its victim feel – helplessness. Cancer is a vicious disease that when once traps its victim sucks out his entire soul till its empty waiting for all of this to get over, to end this cycle of torture, of being burden on others, of being the cause of tears in their near and dear one’s eyes, of piercing a hole in the hearts that will leave a gap when the victim will leave this life, of painful memories that will continue to haunt their families till their existence.

I love this story because of the reality it shows. While we people take everything for granted and the most difficult thing we usually face is not getting a cab or bus on time to reach college or office, there are people in the world battling for every single breath they take, crossing every single day they live across calendars to see how many days they have left.
The story takes you on a roller coaster ride where you feel myriad of emotions from sad to happy to anxious to depressed and every emotion possibly known to humans. I can never see it as just a romantic story because it much more than that.

Truth to admit, even though I have a fairly simple life I feel sad at some points but seeing as the lead characters try to balance out everything to attain some sort of normalcy in their distraught lives and still getting courage to smile in order to make their families less sad is something we all can learn. I love this story because the lead characters are not depicted as too good looking, smart, perfect angels fallen from heaven but normal people like you and me who are weird, different in their own way and perfectly imperfect like us.

So friends, this is it. I hope you all liked it and please don’t hesitate to comment on it as it will help me improve and motivate.

Traits that successful people have that set them apart from the crowd.

In today’s date everyone wants to be successful but there are only few who are able to achieve it. They are the one who set an example for others to follow them. And I respect such people. I love reading life stories of such people who became zero to hero, and I can’t help but notice some similar traits in all these people. I am listing a few of these traits which will not only motivate you to turn your dreams into reality but also help you in the path of success.

1. They are risk takers.
The thing I like about Nike is not just its shoes but also its slogan ‘Just do it’. When other people are worried about taking risks, successful people get up and do it.

2. They are not afraid of failure.
Successful people don’t give up after they fail. They get up and fight. Most of us are afraid of others judgments’, what others will say, or will they become a laughing stock of the society after they suffer a failure? Successful people don’t pay attention to such trivial things; the only thing set in their mind is their goal.

3. They believe in themselves.
While most of us either blame others or their luck, successful people now that they will get outcome on the basis of whatever they do. They believe in ‘I am my own destiny’ concept. They BELIEVE in themselves. Remember belief is an important concept of life. How can others believe you if you don’t believe in yourself? So, if you want to become successful first start believing yourself that YOU CAN be successful.

4. They accept challenges.
While others are afraid of challenges and run in opposite direction when they face one, successful people face them bravely.

5. They accept their mistakes.
We often feel bad if we make a mistake and if we made one, we are hesitant to accept them as we feel that they can damage peoples’ perspective of us being intelligent. While most of us are busy making people believe in our intelligence level, successful people know that accepting mistakes is the first step in actually correcting them. They accept their mistakes, correct them and remember not to make the same one in future.

6. They are eager to learn.
Successful people are always great learners. Note that I used the word ‘learners’ not ‘students’. There is a difference in being a learner and being a student. Great students get good grades in school but that’s it. They might not always ace the test of life. While great learners may or may not get good grades while in school but they have a thirst for knowledge, they are always learning. And they are not ashamed of doing it even if they have to learn it from someone years younger to them.

7. They dream.
Successful people do dream. And they work hard to turn it into reality. You won’t know what you want unless and until you dream of achieving it.

8. They prepare a plan.
You don’t enter into a war and expect to win without having a plan on how to work things out. Successful people prepare a plan. Believe in it, start working according to it, make modifications along the way and achieve it.

9. They don’t set limits.
They don’t stop after reaching their goals. They continue their journey till they feel contented. You can say that even sky’s not the limit for them.

10. They don’t follow others, they create their own trail for others to follow.
Successful people are known for their abilities to do things differently. They like to have identity of their own rather than beings overshadowed by others.

11. They accept changes and modify themselves according to it.
Now, remember the point where I told you they prepare a plan? Yup, they prepare one and work accordingly. But life is full of changes. Ever since the creation of life forms on earth, many creatures came to existence and many of them became extinct but only few of them were actually able to survive, not because they were strong but because they were able to adapt to changes. Change is the law of nature and successful people know it. Even though they have a prepared route to reach their goal in their mind, they do make changes in it as they continue to go further according to the need of the moment.

12. They live in present.
Successful people learn from past, dream and make goals for future but they live in present.